Tracy McMillan

I feel that as long as you're honest, you have the opportunity to grow. It's when you shut down, go into denial, and try to start hiding things from yourself and others, that's when you lock in certain behaviors and attitudes that keep you stuck.

Without really trying to, I've become a sort of jailhouse lawyer of relationships - someone who's had to do so much work on her own case that I can now help you with yours.

The deal is: most men just want to marry someone who is nice to them.

If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you.

Putting my words piece online was an important part of my plan to help women learn how to love themselves and have a better life.

Because I was a television writer for many years, I write very conversationally. I put things straight, and with a lot of humor.

Relationships are like the world's most intense yoga! It's a daily practice.

Work is a different type of pursuit than relationships. You can't take the skills that you know that have gotten you into that great school or into that great job and apply them to your relationships.

Women blame men for their own singlehood.

One of the beautiful things about men is that they're very in the moment. That's why they don't want to have an argument about what happened six months ago.

I was, for some reason, born knowing how to get married.

Lots of people feel more alive when they're riding a roller-coaster relationship. But while this might be fun for a while, it can't possibly last.

People who find that they have a lot of drama in their relationships need to allow themselves to get 'bored'. At first, it will feel excruciating, and they may find themselves confronting a very real fear underneath all that drama: being truly close and therefore vulnerable to another human being.

I think of masculine and feminine energy like two sides to a battery. There's a plus side and a minus side, and in order to make something turn on, you need to have opposites touching. It's the same in relationships.

I'm the straight-talking woman in your life who is going to be really honest with you, but come from a place of love. I'm not talking down to you; I do this from my heart.

The thing is, relationships never work out... until they do. You learn a lot from relationships that don't work out.

When relationships don't work out, it doesn't mean you're a bad person, it just means you weren't meant to be together.

We have this false idea in our culture that if you haven't made it by 30, then you're never going to do anything interesting. My 40s have been the most incredible time of my life.

I think every woman has this point in her life where she's like, 'I have a great job, great outfits and great friends, but something's missing.'

If I had an office job, I'd probably be doing the exact same thing I'm doing on television: hanging out by the water cooler and talking to co-workers about their relationships.

There is no such thing as 'getting' a guy, house and kids. There is only surrendering to them.

Caring - about people, about things, about life - is an act of maturity.

I'm a blunt person, not mean-spirited. I come from a place of love, but I'm interested in being real.

Women with low self-esteem love bad boys. Women who have work to do love bad boys. Women who love themselves love good men.

I talk to women for a living. It's pretty much what I do with my day.